第24章把孤单岁月分享(4)

第24章把孤单岁月分享(4)

perfectionisttend完美主义倾向

frustrate

【释义】vt.挫败；阻挠；使感到灰心adj.挫败的；无益的vi.失败；受挫【短语】frustrateabet阻挠

motivate

【释义】vt.刺激；使有动机；激发……的积极性

【短语】motivatedesktop壁纸自动换；motivatepermeate渗透，扩散

definite

【释义】adj.一定的；确切的

【短语】definiteintegral定积分；definiteinflorescence有限花序

lonelinessalonggrowth/成长的孤独

we，relikethecream.whenthecreamrisestothetop，itseparatesitselffromthemilk. perhapsthatiswhatthenewagemovementisreallyallabout.wefindourselveslonelyatthetop.yes，itis.

often，wefindourselvesunabletofindthoseotherrareindividualswhoarechoosingthesamepathasours.thepathofsloppyandlazyisfullofotherpeopletomeetandtalkto.thepathofwhinersisfull.thepathofbeingsafe，generic，andboringissocrowdedyoualmostcannotevenmoveforward.isn，tthatwhyyouleftthatpath？youhadaneedtomoveforward，aneedforsomeelbowroom，aneedtospreadyourarmswide，aneedtobeseenasspecial，unique，different.themassesmayadmireyou，buttheyarenotgoingtobeabletoreallyrelatetoyou. youwillbealonemuchofthetime.

donotbeafraidofthelonelinessofenlightenment.donotforceotherstoagreewithyou. simplygiveyourheartandknowthatyouaregrowingandthattheyarefreetogrowornot.itisthenatureofthegame.weareallfreetochooseourpaths.

我们就像奶油。当奶油浮到顶部的时候，它会和牛奶分离。也许这种现象正是新世纪运动的本质。我们发现自己飞得越高，就会越感孤独。是的，事实就是如此。

经常，我们很难找到那些选择和我们同路的人们。那条草率、慵懒的道路挤满了可以相遇并聊天的人，那条满是牢骚者的道路上也拥挤不堪；那条所谓安全、普通和枯燥的道路是如此拥挤以至于你无法向前挪步。难道这不正是你离开那条道路的原因吗？你需要向前挪步，需要活动的空间，需要伸展你的双臂，需要被认为是特别的、有个性、与众不同。或许有万千大众仰慕你，但他们却不可能真正地融入你。大部分的时间里，你将是孤独的。

不要害怕因造诣深而产生的孤独感。不必要勉强别人附和你。只需真心付出，坚定着你自己的成长，别人是否愿意成长就由他们自己去决定吧。这就是游戏的规则。我们都有选择自己道路的自由。

separate

【释义】n.分开vt.使分离；使分开；使分居vi.分开；隔开；分居

【短语】separatefrom分离，分开

individual

【释义】n.个人，个体adj.个人的；个别的；独特的

【短语】individualenterprise个体企业

elbow

【释义】n.肘部；扶手vt.推挤；用手肘推开

【短语】uptotheelbowsin忙于（工作等）

unique

【释义】n.独一无二的人或物adj.独特的，稀罕的

【短语】uniquesolution唯一解法

mass

【释义】n.块，团；群众，民众；众多；质量adj.群众的，民众的

【短语】inmass作为整体；beamassof遍布

enlightenment

【释义】n.启迪；启蒙运动；教化

admire

【释义】vt.钦佩；赞美vi.钦佩；称赞

【短语】admireat对……感到羡慕；admirefor因……而称赞

firstkissdisaster/初吻之灾

everyoneknowsthatyourfirstkississupposedtobemind-blowingandlifechanging.atleast，thisiswhatfairytalesandhollywoodliketopromiseyounggirlswhoareseekingtheirownprincecharming.ihavetoadmitthatbeforelastnight，i-likemanygirls-wassuckeredintothebeliefthatmyfirstkisswasgoingtobethebestthingthateverhappenedtome.iassumeditwouldbemagical.iwasconvincedthatatthemomentmylipsmadecontactwiththeloveofmylife，thestarryskieswouldexplodewithcolorandachoirwouldimmediatelystartsinging“hallelujah！”

well，isortoffeellikeanidiotnowbecausemyfirstkisswasdefinitelynotthebestthingthat，severhappenedtome.infact，itwasquitetheopposite

mymotheris，well，averyuptightkindofperson.myyoungersisterjaneandihaveconcludedthatshewasadrillsergeantinapreviouslife.wewereonlyallowedtogroupdateuntilweturnedeighteen，whichwasahugeproblembecauseihadjustagreedtogooutonadatewithderekcoreyalone.

fiveo，clockrolledaroundslowly.whenisawderek，scariquicklygrabbedmypurse，andracedtothefrontdoor.myhandsweredrippingwithsweat.atfirst，thecardoorhandleslippedbetweenmyfingers.frantic，iwipedmyhandsagainstthesideofmysweaterbeforeenteringthecar.

afteritookmyseat，igazedupatderek，whoissimplygorgeous-darkwavyblackhairandstrikingindigoblueeyes.iwastheluckiestgirlintheuniverse.

“youlooknice，”hesaidandhisbreathsmelledlikewintermint.“ready？”inodded.iglancedupatmyhouse，noticingjaneandmycousinclarestaringatmethroughmywindow，laughing.ididn，treallycarebecauseiwaswithderek.theentiredrivetothemovietheaterikeptthinkingofhowlovelymynewnamewouldsound.roxannecorey.ilovedit.wepulleduptothemovietheaterandhoppedoutofthecar.

hequicklystartedwalkingoff.iraceduptohim，wipingthesweatoffmyhandontomysweateronceagain，andtookariskbyholdinghishand.myfaceheatedup.helookeddownatme，smiling.

yes！

wewalkeduptobuyourtickets.icouldn，twaittosee27dresses.“twofortherewillbeblood，”dereksaid.

“what？”iasked.“ithoughtwewereseeing27dresses.”

“don，tworry，”hetoldme.“ifyougetscaredyoucanhidebehindmyarm.”iwasstartingtohaveabadfeelingaboutthis.

beforegoingintothetheater，derekboughtusabagofpopcornalongwithtwosodas.thenheaskedforonemorethingachilidogwithextraonions.justwhenithoughtiwasgoingtogetmyfirstkissheboughtachilidogwithextraonions！